Cutting child's hair as punishment?

I once overheard a conversation between 2 co-workers in which one said that her 10-year-old son was acting up and as punishment, her husband cut the child's hair. I've seen the child prior to that; while his hair was long, but it was clean, neat. From what I understand now, he has a conservative look. Regardless, I found that method of discipline somewhat wrong; as if punishing him by taking away his hairstyle is a punishment to his identity. Am I missing something here?

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

I'd only do that if they weren't properly caring for their long hair.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

the 13 yo child was told that he could have long hair as long as he kept his grades up...after he came home with 2 d's the deal was the hair would be cut...he knew the punishment...is this wrong? Report It

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

Yes, that is wrong.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

I think it's wrong too...a haircut seems like too long term of a punishment. Hair can take a while to grow back.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

That's sickening.... taking away individuality as punishment- good god! Her son is a ten year old- not an army recruit!

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

No, you aren't missing anything. Those parents are in for a treat when that kid tries to rebel.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

You are absolutely correct. The hair-cutting does nothing except embarass and humiliate a child. there's nothing good to come from that.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

why not shave his eyebrows while they were at it? or pull his finger nails out?... that's too much control, thats bad for a kid.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

No I agree with you that is taking it a bit too far. By cutting his hair they took away part of who he is on the outside. If he had long hair it was most likely because he was expressing himself some how with it. Some parents just don't think that a child's identity or self expression is important so they do things that others question. Bottom line I guess is that even though we see it as overboard and odd, it's still their prerogative as his parents to do what they deem necessary. As long as they're not abusing the boy judgment shouldn't be passed.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

That is an insane way to punish a child.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

Yes that is so severe, I think time out is the best panishment for kids

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

I really dont see what the child would learn or take away from that. That is just cruel and unusual punishment.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

The punishment does not relate in any way to the offense(s), and since it is an assault on the child's identity it has already created resentment that is not likely to go away. If the child becomes irrationally rebellious against his parents and/or society, you wil know why.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

gee wiz, what's up with these people/ it is not stealing a childs identity. my 9 yo identical twin step-sisters refused to tell their teachers whos who and so my step-dad cut their hair different hairstyles. they were mad at him for a week. they got over it and are not emotionally scarred. yeesh.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

You shouldn't judge what went on their house. If she isn't violent against the child, she has to do what she needs to do to get through to her child.

Some kids dont care if you take away all their things and ground them, you have to find something that works.

If his hair is the only way to make him listen - then I say she should go for it. It's a non-violent way of reaching the child.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

Highly horrible. I t is a purely barbarian act. Love creates so many wonders. The person involved insted of cutting the hair he may opt for some other method to persuade his son to mend himself. He might have adopted a non violence method instead.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

The only way that I could see that being a fitting punishment would be if the child had promised to take care of their chosen hairstyle, keeping it clean, healthy, neat - then - didn't take care of it. At that point, the parent could step in %26amp; say, "Since you aren't keeping your hair clean %26amp; neat in your chosen style, then I need to do it (to keep you polite %26amp; healthy). If I have to take over this responsibility for you, then I get to decide the hairstyle that works best for my life".

Otherwise, it just seems random %26amp; punitive.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

That's horrific! Not appropriate or constructive at all. I hope he cuts their hair in their sleep. That'll teach 'em! ;)

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

Could have been worse. A grandmother in San Diego pulled out her 13 year old grandson's eye teeth with a pair of pliers as punishment.

But I agree that messing with a child's identity seems psychologically damaging. It's an iffy situation. Parents should choose their battles and their punishments carefully.

A letter to an advice columnist several years ago had to do with a father who shaved his sons' heads the first day of summer so he wouldn't have to pay for a haircut until school started, but that wasn't punishment.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

When my cousin was about 4 or 5 years old my aunt cut all of her hair off as a punishment for not sitting still for hair brushing. My cousin had really long hair..it was half way down her back and beautiful. Because she used to put up such a fuss while getting her hair brushed my aunt cut it all off..herself. My cousin ended up with boy short hair. Even though I was just a kid I thought it was really mean.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

That sort of "punishment" doesn't fit the crime. However, long hair on boys looks bad, so really, it wasn't a huge disservice. The boy doesn't lose his identity... he looks so much better now.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

It is extreme punishment but that doesn't make it wrong per say. In Junior high, the guys I hung around with all had long hair. So did I and loved it. I was flunking out of school because I was always screwing around. I was warned and warned. When I came home with a failing report card, I was marched to the barber shop and given a buzz cut! Yes, I was tramatized and teased by my friends, BUT it was more effective than grounding or even spanking had ever been. I knew if I didn't get my grades up, I would go through school bald. My grades came up, and my hair grew out. They stayed up and my hair stayed the way I chose it.

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

I think its wrong. First off they are taking away the child's sense of self and personal identity. Secondly they are teaching that looks are so important, which can be a very devastating to the kids self esteem and can alter how they look at themselves. Poor child

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

no thats mean! why would you want your child to go to school looking like a kid who lives in a train. smack them or take away their toys. but do not humiliate them

Cutting child's hair as punishment?

A short hair cut shouldn't be considered a punishment, but a good habit.